Texting/Calling The Morning After? The Proper Protocol

Okay, we've all done this before in our lives. If not, shame on you. You know, the "infamous" morning after text/call. Usually after some type of sexual relations have went down the night before, but what does this mean? Some of us may get confused and by us I mean, GUYS, because we are the ones who are usually left with the decision to text or call the next day.

From the get go, let me say that the next time you contact your partner/jumpoff/person you just had sex with, it SHOULD NOT be a text. I know we live in the textual world at the moment and some of us LIVE off texting but please don't send a text as your NEXT REACH OUT. It's LOW. Very low I must say. A phone call goes a long way in this day and age, especially since the guy she just left was probably an habitual texter also.
Is it needed? Of course it is and don't give the excuse that you just didn't know when to send it, or it slipped your mind because you were busy doing other things. Nah, not buying it. You weren't busy when she texted you back last night and told you to come over, so don't be "busy" the day after.

But what does it mean and when is the perfect time to hit her up the next day? I mean, I don't want to feel like a pyshco or tooo pressed. Don't worry I got ya!



The very first PHONE CALL you should make should be when you make it home. Call them to let you know that you made it, because I'm pretty sure when you left your spot, you told her,

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The new "I'm really cheating on you" excuse

Over the past few years, there has been a few reasons and excused that us guys give women AND vice versa that just scream out, "I'm really cheating on you." For one, remember the "I'm working late," excuse? Yeah, that pretty much got found out but some guys still try to use it and some EVEN think they are getting away with it. Trust me, if you use that excuse and your girl/guy goes along with it, THEY KNOW you are cheating and are just waiting for a good time to leave your ass.

Another one that was popular was, "Oh, he/she's just a friend," now this one had a good one, only because we really wanted to believe you, because we loved you, because we wanted things to work, but after some time, 'just a friend' became "just someone I'm fucking, but I don't care about them at all." Yeah, those are two of the most popular "I'm really cheating on you" excuses.

Now, in this new age of technology, with the social sites of the innanets, I've found through doing many studies and putting in hours of work, that there is a new phrase to tell when your guy/girl is cheating. A few will say I'm breaking the "manlaw" or hating on women trying to get theirs but I feel like I owe this to all the broken hearts of 2010, men and women. Over the weekend, I was in the middle of a little "relationship squabble" between two love birds when the female fired off questions about another young tender who was at my table, the guy responded with, "Oh, we just talk on twitter."

Hmmmm. It hit me. This is it. This is the new "I'm really cheating on you" excuse. Sorry I didn't warn yall earlier but I was just giving you all a little time to receive Christmas gifts, to see if you got what you wanted or not.

Please enjoy the rest of your holidays and keep a hear out for that phrase if said by the one you love.
No need to thank me.

Ladies, what would you do? [Poll]

Honest women only please.

You're at your place with your guy and he steps into the bathroom to take a shower. After a few minutes you hear his phone ringing, on the counter of the kitchen where he left it. Answer the poll below.

His phone rings, he's in the shower. What do you do?

Take a look to see who's calling.Look to see who's calling and then answer if it's a female.Pay it no mind at all.Nothing the FIRST time but looks if it rings again.

Spooning is good; but FORKING is better!

Is this you? Are you a spooner? If so, that's cool. Good for you and the guy or gal who joins in this passionate display of affection. I, on the other hand, am more a FORKER. It can even happen in the same position. You should try it. Let me know how that works out.

Do Women Know What They Want?

Some say they want a relationship. When a guy makes a commitment, they say he's moving to fast.

Some just want to have a good time. When a guy prolongs the commitment, they say he's not serious.

Some just want to be taken care of. When a guy shows he's has everything covered, they want to claim they're Ms. Independent.

Some want to have a large family. When a guy decides to get them knocked up, they no longer wants to have kids.

I know this does not go for ALL women. Maybe any women, maybe this falls in a whole different category. Maybe I should say "GIRLS" because there is NO WAY a WOMAN should not know what she wants, right?

Friday Question of The Night

Do Women Really Know What They Want?

A few days ago, #whatwomenwant was a popular hashtag on twitter. Some of the things I saw had me very confused. There were some women who said all the right things and then, there were some who were completely losing me with the things they were asking for. Maybe the hashtag should have been #whatwomenneed, but for one, I saw a few saying that they want to be taken care of. I found this kind of hard to believe due to the amount of women who scream that they are INDEPENDENT. A few women were saying they wanted someone who could just slang the pipe and pay a bill every now and then. What the FCUK?! Maybe I'm just following the wrong people, what do you think?
Do women really know what they want?

The 2nd Date.

Ok, so by someway possible, you've made it to the second date. A few questions float in your head on how things should go, what you should do, things you should talk about, where will you take her, what does she expect out of this one? All common concerns, but chill. To me, a second date is ALL POSITIVE from what I've seen. For one, she likes you, hence the reason she's out with you on a second date, and even if she doesn't like you from what you've shown her on the first one, you still have one more chance to show her why there should be more dates in the future.

A lot of people disagree with me and my labeling of this date as, the "spend out" date. I say that to say this, the first day for me is more so of a meeting, a walk and talk type of environment. A quick lunch, stop and drop small gifts off type of date. Nothing major. After a few more phone calls, text messages, retweets and dms, the 2nd date is where you show her what you are about and what she can get use to. I label this one as the "spend out" date because this is usually where the dinner, movies, live music, etc takes place.

ING Direct did a survey on how much money women expect guys to spend on a FIRST date. Most women said somewhere around $85 was a reasonable amount. I guess that really depends on where you are living as well. However; the second date has always been known to me as I stated above.
I asked a few of my friends on twitter questions about the #2ndDate and I really enjoyed some of the answers they provided.

When asking "What Do Women Expect On A #2ndDate," I received:



So what if sex happens on the #2ndDate, what does that mean? To me, I always thought if that happened on the #2ndDate, it very well could have happened on the first. Does it means she's easy, of course!! Just kidding. No, it just means, well I asked that to a few followers and they responded as follows:



Hmm, so what do you think? How do your #2ndDates turn out? Lemme know.

Sex with Heels On?

I've been trying to figure out this fascination for a while now. You know, the one that guys have about having sex with women in only heels. I mean, I have that fascination as well but I couldn't even begin to tell you where it came from. I've also learned that some women have this fantasy as well. Hopefully after this post, you and I will have a better understanding of how this cam about and why there are so many who try to cross this challenge off their sex list.

We all know sex is a wonderful thing, well the ones who have had their share of course. Not speaking for myself, but I've heard from friends that it is a pretty nice activity to partake in. Over the past few years, through college, work force, lounge hopping, and gallivanting with the in crowd from time to time, the topic of sex comes up. From there, it goes into what do you like? How do you like it? What are some of your fantasies? Some of the answers remain the same, some vary. Often someone brings up the question, "have you ever told a female to keep her heels on?"

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Signs that She's Not Interested In You

Yes fellas, it is fall and cuddle season is fastly approaching. You did a lot of running around this spring and had yourself a very good summer. Pool party here, rooftop event there, lounging through the weekday, etc.. Now you're thinking of bunnin someone up for the winter. Nothing better right? I agree. There are just a few things you need to know, and a few signs you need to look out for before you go chasing a female over these next few months.

Believe it or not, some women, even some of the ones you were checking out over the summer, has found their cuddle buddy for the winter. Tough luck. That's on you playa. So you out there now, "finagling with the hoes" as my homeboy use to call it. Let me give you a few signs that will show you that shorty's not interested in you.


1. If during a conversation, she tells you "This is not the right time."
Ladies know WHAT THEY WANT and WHEN THEY WANT IT. They are not like guys, do we EVER say "this is not the right time?" No. If a female tells you this, keep it moving. Even if she's being truthful, who are you to wait, I told you above, the winter is APPROACHING!

2. When asking for her number, she says, "I'll call you."
Now this could also be true. It has happened a number of times. Although its a 86% chance that she will not give you a call, EVER. The next time a female tells you that, you reply with, "Call me now, so I can save your number." Rude? Maybe, but so what, she wasn't going to call you anyway. Keep it moving.

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"Can We Talk About Marriage?"

Yesterday before the football games kicked off, I popped the question, "Can we talk about marriage?" Didn't think I'd receive THIS much feedback but I had a lot of people chime in and give their opinions and we had a REALLY NICE CONVERSATION before the 1:00 pm KICKOFFS. I may try this again next week.

This question came up because I had been conversing with a few friends who were talking about marriage and the importance of it. Also a time frame in which that "marriage" conversation should come up if you are in a relationship.

So I took to twitter and these are some of the responses I received:
I would like to thank all who gave their opinions and shedding some light on the topic at hand. If you have anything to add, please feel free to leave a comment!

Does SEX really matter?

Ok, numerous people have told me before, SEX doesn't play ANY type of role in their relationship. It's all about caring, loving, trusting the person you're with. If the birds are chirping and dogs are barking when you and your lover walks Lover's Lane, then everything is right with the world. My thoughts; you've gotta be f#@king KIDDING ME!!

Let's start off by saying that I am in NO WAY, one of these sexual maniacs who puts sex above breathing. Sex is what it is, it's SEX. On another note, I do think that sex plays a major part in a relationship. You may think different, and that's totally cool. That's you, but what about your partner?

If the sex is terrible, what happens then? Are pointers given out? Do you move on? Do you go the drastic route and get it from someone else? I would most certainly hope not, but there are are some who have AND has used that as an excuse!!

How much of a role does SEX play in your relationship? Can you stick around if the sex is horrible? If your guy or girl has NO CLUE of what's going on in the bedroom, what is your next move? Does SEX REALLY MATTER?

I've given you my take, let me know what you think on the issue.

Video Vixens vs The Regular Woman

In todays days and age, we are subjected by the use of watching videos and reading magazines, to some of the most gorgeous women we've ever seen. These women look as perfect as you can ever imagine. Some of these women are women we think we will never meet in our lifetimes. On the other hand, depending on where you live, you see women who are almost two times as fine/phat/beautiful as the women you see posted in JET Magazine. Which leaves me to ask the question, which would you rather try to start a relationship with? Would the video model be a little too much for you, or would be be ok just settling with the girl down the street who has just as much potential? Thoughts?

Can You Fall In Love Before Having Sex

I really don't even know why I'm asking this. I know EVERYONE will say YES. I guess the thing that I'm trying to find out is, what USUALLY comes first with you all?. We all know it's possible to fall in love before sex but in today's day and age, it seems that sex often occurs within the first 2-3 months. With that being said, are you really falling in LOVE in that short time period?

It's alot I have to say on this topic but I really just don't feel like writing it all out for one, and also you may not feel like reading it all. So for now, this is it. I will however return with a video to explain everything. So I leave you with the question. Normally, do YOU fall in love before you give up the GOODS?

"I Love You.."

three words. eight letters. one sentence.
Yes, these three words used together completes the most powerful phrase that can be used between two people. It's not a thought. Not an opinion. It's not a hypothesis. It is an ADMISSION. This sentence puts your life in slow motion for at least a split second whenever you hear it.

Some can't wait to hear it. Some can't wait to have someone they can tell this to. Then there are some who DON'T want to hear this used AT ALL, well at least by the guy or gal that they are with at the moment.

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Fellas, it's time you switch it up

Whether you find it hard to believer or not, the old days of dating are gone. You know the ones, the regular "dinner/movie/back to the crib" dates, yeah, THOSE. Those are history. Well let me rephrase that, those are for the teenagers. I have to admit, it's something about us fellas, the laziness inside us that sometimes just want to settle for the ordinary. Nowadays, the ordinary doesn't cut it. If you are still getting a woman, Teddy Bears and Millionaires for her birthday, Valentines, Christmas, etc, then this post is for you!

What I have grown to learn is that women love surprises. We all know women love to talk to other women and it's nothing they would like to share more than telling them about something YOU did that was special. This is where the laziness inside us needs to be overtaken. Replace the laziness with effort. Below I will tell you a few things that are different but at the same time, simple and would really get you MAJOR COOL POINTS (yes, I did just use cool points) with the lady you are trying to get in bed with know a little better.

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"We Just Kicking It, Right?"

Last night, I was watching the best movie ever made, screw BOOMERANG my favorite movie, Love Jones. There was a scene where Nia Long Nina asked Darius (Larenz Tate) if it was cool if she went to New York to "settle some things" (seeing her ex boyfriend was one of them.) Darius replied, "Sure, no problem. WE JUST KICKING IT, RIGHT?"

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Top 5 Things That Make a Woman Sexy

In today's society, a woman's sexiness has been downplayed or categorized by who has the biggest ass and nicest rack. Sad but true. Ass, breast, face (in that order) usually sets the level of how sexy a woman is. So with that said, I can't blame women for trying to buy clothes that show off these features when some feel like they have to compete with others who have gotten ass implants, breast implants, etc.

To give you all a little hope, there are SOME of us who do not judge women by those characteristics. I'm here to bring you the top five SEXIEST features of a woman and NONE of them are physical. Find a man who goes by this list and you just might find the man of your dreams.

1. If she has a nice personality - there's nothing like a woman with a nice personality. We all know someone who is just glowing every time we see them. Someone who can get along with anyone. A personality can be the difference in whether WE want to continue seeing you or not!

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